Can't Handle Praise
We do indirect praise. Examples:
- Most would say ‘good girl’ eating up dinner - we would say ‘oh great, clean plate’.
- Most would say ‘what a good girl you have been today’ - we say ‘what an enjoyable day it’s been today with you.’
- Most would say good work well done what a great picture you drew - we say wow what a wonderful picture.
It takes a while to get used to, but so works. Our daughter can now accept little bits of praise and is starting to compliment herself - indirectly of course - a long journey from the child who when praised reverted back to not nice behaviours and parents who were very confused about the behaviours. So much for CAMHS and the social worker saying to praise her more - the more we did the more the behaviours reverted - they said we were not doing enough of it - we were doing too much of the wrong kind of praise and if it was not for my mother buying me a psychology magazine which had an interesting article - we would never have moved on.